From the monthly archives:

November 2009

Neil is brilliant. He is a master of getting people to his blog. He is funny and charming on twitter. He writes and links to lots of people. He starts small little scurries of opinion. All of it makes him someone that everybody knows. I do know him, i spent a few hours hanging out with him in Chicago last summer and found him charming and gracious and kind.
Anyway, he is doing his yearly Great Interview Experiment and i am taking part. I was interviewed by "D" at Decoy Betty and here is what i had to say:
Why is believing there is magic in this world so important to you?
I think, if i am honest with myself, i need to believe there is magic. You see, i have had a very tough three years, it hasn't been anything that many, many other people don't go through – it's just that they *keep* on happening. But, in between it all, in the middle days, i have had moments of great bliss. Large and small. I have seen the magic in my kids amazing resilience. I have seen the magic in a few kind words at the exact needed moment. I have felt love that hurts so much it makes me cry. I have seen my daughter light up when she visits her fairy house in the morning and there is a new and tiny note waiting for her. I need to believe that life will cut me a break soon, that i will magically have a wonderful future.
What are your top 5 songs to sing in the car?
This is a tough one. I'm a bit of a music junkie. Five songs that have really carried me through the past year are:
1. "Skinny Love" by Bon Iver
2. "The Night Starts Here" by Stars
3. "Halfway Home" by TV On The Radio
4. "Weighty Ghost" by Wintersleep
5. "Milk Thistle" by Conner Oberst
And, everything by Band of Horses who are my musical super heroes.
Now that all of your kids are in school, you said you have 5 free hours during the day (when they aren't sick with swine flu – yikes!) how do you spend that time; and how would you like to spend that time – in dream land?
Lately i've been spending that time doing the Mondo Beyondo course and learning how to use my Diana camera. The Diana is a vintage inspired plastic camera. I have several lenses for it and an Instant back which lets me take mini "polaroids." I love it, but it's simplicity has proved very difficult.
In dream land i would spend that time doing some kind of exercise that i actually enjoyed and working on my career as a photographer.

Can you write a haiku (5 syllables, 7 syllables, 5 syllables) about what it's like when your youngest claims into bed with you some nights?

chubby hand face down
softly snoring kicking sheets
winter breeze kisses
Aren't they supposed to have a seasonal reference? I tried…
From looking at your photos (and that one entry about your facebook photo), I can see you like arms and legs but rarely have photos of your face, why is that?
Honestly, i'm the only one who ever takes photos of me, especially since i've become a single mom and, more truthfully, i almost always look bad in pictures other people take of me. I lost my self-confidence in regards to photos. I suppose that part of it is getting older too. It's hard to get a picture of me where i actually look like me. My legs and feet though? They always look like me. I also like the feeling a picture of feet gives me. My kids feet have so many stories. All the places they have been and the places they will go.
I suppose the same can be said for my Facebook profile pics that have been a series of pictures of my legs and feet – dancing, jumping, running – going somewhere. It reminds me that i do have places to go and a future to embrace.
I've been to British Columbia and I still have nightmares about those giant banana slugs, do you ever get over seeing them around your yard? Have you ever stepped on one? Do they make a yucky sound?
I kind of luck the slugs. They have a hole on the side of their head that they breathe out of, it's kind of cool. I hated them as a kid though. One horrible summer i stepped on one in bare feet and it squished between my toes. *shudder* I still remember exactly how that felt. I've stepped on them in shoes and they actually 'pop'. It's pretty gross, they pop right out of their slimy skins.

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another wasted night

November 9, 2009

in bad days

parker
I have been having a rough time lately. I think it's like a coming down.
I have had many hours alone. I'm not sure why i didn't in september and october. I think my kids are sick too often and there are too many professional days.
I have spent a lot of time in bed over the past two weeks. I have felt myself unraveling. A losing of footing.
Things could have been so well, they were going well back in july. I had a house, i had a life. I was feeling happy and confidant.
One by one everything has gone to shit.
You know all that.
In the past week i have expertly removed every single person who cares about me and who i care about from my life.
I have screamed "i just want to be alone."
I am having a little breakdown and i am totally present in it. I am not denying it or playing it down. I am letting it happen.
And then i will better.

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~ i continue my love affair with London Fogs – especially with Mighty Leaf tea.
~ wandering around the house with the kids this morning, explaining to them where everything is going to be.
~ tuna melts on squirrely bread topped with cucumber and pepper.
~ red converse high tops on my daughter.
~ flash fried capers.

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parker talks about stuff… from jess howard on Vimeo.

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make it easy, make it fun

November 5, 2009

in nablopomo

hand polaroid.jpg
What bugs me?
~food in my teeth
~food in your teeth
~wayward facial hair
~egg in soup
~mornings
~teachers who silently judge
~10% tips
~fruit in food, i like my fruit by itself thank-you
~leopard print
~lighters out of fluid
~quoting philosophers or self-help books
~bugs flying around my head while i try to sleep
~private school girls
things i like
~feline head butts
~watching polaroids develop
~when it gets dark early
~being out in a city at night
~waking up in the country
~loud music
~boys and guitars, at the same time
~filet mignon, medium rare
~kisses and hugs from my kids
~20% tippers
~ hair cuts with razors
~wearing black

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