I have learned something. I have learned what friendship is. What it means to stand by the side of a person you love. Friendship is love. The toughest kind of love.
A friend is someone that you love without judgement. Someone who you trust to keep the darkest secrets and silliest moments.
A person you have never met in person, yet happily share a hotel room with, walking around in towels and underwear like you've known each other forever.
A person you can drink a bottle of wine with in the middle of the day and laugh with when they fall asleep head down in the sand or trip over a log. A friend is someone who brings you a cup of tea at the perfect moment. A friend is someone who you can talk about money with. A friend is someone who understands when you don't want to talk. Who will just sit beside you. Prop you up when you are falling. Who hugs you just when you need it most and they will know that without you saying a word.
I have not always been a good friend. I have touble opening up. Letting people in. Scared of judgement. I haven't let anyone in for so long. I have missed out on so many years of friendship. That has been a mistake. I can see that now.
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I love the photo of the snow. I wish it would snow here! I know what you mean about friendship. I realized that when you get older you have to really try or attempt to make friends. There’s no more of that “wanna play” thing or “wanna be my friend?” among adults. :)
I love this. Beautifully said. Just absolutely beautifully and truthfully said.
So well said I’m going to copy it to my BFF. :)
Jess it sounds like you have gotten better about opening up since I firat started reading your blog. Remember how uncomfortable you were when you went to Blogher? How you shared a hotel room with someon eelse? Friends rock they really do. Good for you better late to the party then never.
Love ya Jess. You are a better friend then you realize.
Simply, yes.
I was burned about 9 months ago and I’m ashamed to say that my “real life” friends are now all on the internet.
Not that they aren’t valid friendships – and real, and beautiful. Just that they are far away and I can’t “do” for them when they need it and can’t receive when I need it.
I hope there is someone physically there for you.
you’re an amazing woman, a lovely friend, and a brilliant writer
xoxo
I’m thinking of you and wishing you well.
Hang in there.