hello friends,
i have been without internet access for five days.
i am newly separated. single mother. new home.
kids with me now, until friday.
i will not talk about the status of my marriage. save for today.
just an update. more soon.
jess
xx
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16 months ago my feet were in the same, or at least quite similar, shoes as you are walking in now. There will be many days when it will seem that things will not ever be better. Things *will* be better though, they really will. Be strong and brave. You are in my thoughts always.
(((jess)))
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Hugs to you and the kids. This must be extremely difficult for all concerned. Take good care of yourself, let people help. The kids are wonderful and they love you. How is your husband dealing with the separation. If you can, remember all the good times….maybe give him a chance if he deserves one.
Its so sad. Please blod to us about it. We want to share with you.
Hugs and more hugs
Seperated, not single and you brought it on yourself
For John – don’t hurt yourself falling off your high horse…
Take Care, Jess – thinking of you.
Please feel free to share, us Interneters are here to listen if you need us.
XOXO
God John could you be any more fuckin ruder. You must be perfect! Hugs to you Jess, we are gere for you.
Hi Jess-best thoughts to you and yours.
I have been there except for the kids part. I know that changes everything. But it was the best thing I ever did. Please email me if you want to comisserate.
Hi, Just wanted to send a quick note to say I am sending hugs and thinking about you. Take care, Beth
Just know that people care about you. Hang in there.
Hi Jess I just read your news. I am thinking of you and, as always, admiring your strength. Big hugs. Could you email me your new address? I’d like to be able to mail you things sometimes. :)
Sending strength and peace.
And John? I’d love to have a glimpse into your life to see all of the undeserved things you have “brought on yourself”. Have a little compassion.
Go Away John. Your negativity sucks.
No one but Jess and Shane know what their situation is…so keep your judgement to yourself.
((Jess)) Take care and keep checking in with us.
That’s a big step. I wish all of you well. Don’t be afraid to take smaller steps for awhile!
I don’t think “ruder” is a word….. Just saying. :)
Call me this weekend? My big kids will be with their dad, too.
xoxoxo
Take care. We’re thinking of you.
Hooray for steps towards a fresh start. Best of luck as you navigate the challenges ahead, for in the long run things will be much better.
Yeah thanx Ang for the insight. Are you a friend of John’s?
Dear John…..you suck ass. Take your destructiveness elsewhere.
Jess….I know you hate them, but I’m sending you the biggest hugs imaginable. For you, Tristan, Toby, Eliza, and Parker. In all of it, don’t forget to be good to you.
Keeping you in my thoughts.
xoxoxoxo
its the kids I feel sorry for, this is one big pity party, try reading Dr Laura
keep your head up. do what feels right for you and your family. if that means going it in different locations, then do that. but if that means that in a few months you and shane share a bed again, so be it.
don’t be afraid to make these decisions independent of self-defined predictions. not that you would, i’m just saying (that’s what i did when i separated) (my ex, we ended up divorced) (not that that’s what’s going to happen to you) (i’m going to stop this now)
John. you’re not helping. pity the children somewhere else, you troglodyte, like central africa.
John….you obviously have some issues….perhaps if you began a blog about your life…well people might take an interest.
The fact that you are attacking someone else for issues that you know nothing about…unless of course your name happens to be Shane or Jess….well that is a tad pathetic in my point of view.
Let me say that coming from a home that was broken, being raised along with my brother by my single mother…yes that is the correct term John….and visiting my father on holidays and summer vacations…my life wasn’t all that bad. In fact it was a million times better then it would have been had they stayed together. Oh and my mother never “brought it on herself”. Neither has Jess. She is an amazing mother and a wonderful person. Having met her in person I know that for a fact. If you feel the need to attack someone feel free to attack me….or maybe take a good hard look at yourself.
holy crap, jess. i hope you’re doing alright.
*hugs*
Jess,
This is so sad. This: http://www.drowninginkids.com/2006/06/navel_gazing.html#comments is the first post I read of yours after I met you on the hotel shuttle at Blogher’06 Such a beautiful story, I hate to see it come to this.
Take care of yourself.
You’re in my thoughts, Jess.
When we got married ten months later i promised him that i would always love him for the way he helped me and forgave me for the things i had done and the way he loved me so gently and perfectly. He hates my tattoo. It reminds him of that time. A time when he lost me for awhile.
Shane, that brought tears to my eyes. I hope the best for both of you and for the children — that you may get through this in a way that is least hurtful, that it may wind up being good for everyone, and that whatever happens, if you must be apart, that you find yourselves able to be friends and to be parents without animosity. My loving wishes for you both.
Oh Shane….I met you very very briefly, and not under the best circumstances. But you seemed like a great man, kind and caring and wonderful. I have to agree with marian. Hang in there Shane. Wishing you all the best.
To all of you, my love and wish for peace.
You’re in my thoughts.
My prayers and thoughts for Shane and the children. Take care!
Hey Ang, “seperated” isn’t a word either, you know, if you want to keep track. By the way, if your thoughts are only with Shane, I’m sure you have his email address. As for the rest of us, I think we’re capable of supporting the whole family.
Anyway, I haven’t been around much lately (blech, sick), but I hope all of you have a peaceful autumn. I was just looking at your pictures and I can’t believe how big the kids look, especially the picture of Parker with his hands in his pockets, listening to the bagpipes.
Oh.
Jess. I’ve only just met you in July, but wouldn’t want this for you.
You are so amazing. Quite and deep. I knew you had heavy things on your heart, but you have the countenance of a survivor.
I know you’ll survive. Not just that.
I just know you can LIVE again.
Blessings Jess.